The Three Factors of Attraction

This one is more of a theory than a rant. It is about attraction. Something magazines and online articles try to tell you who is "hot", "beautiful", etc and how to define all of this.

The truth is, they are all right and they are all wrong. What I believe is there are THREE factors of attraction (with many sub-branches with each one).

We'll start this off by naming them.

Physical, Emotional and Sexual.

Before I go on, get the thought of Physical and Sexual being the same thing out of your head completely. They are not.

We'll begin this with Physical attraction. Physical attraction relates to more of the physical view and your preferences to how someone looks Physically. This includes their hair, eyes, lips, body shape/weight/height/etc. This is what you find visually appealing to look at and touch. Many people will shame people (more often than not women trying to shame men) for finding this attraction in people. It is nothing to be ashamed of having preferences or not finding someone "Hot" or "Cute" or "Sexy" enough to go out with. This is a form of attraction, whether someone likes it or not, every person you ever date, talk to or even LOOK at, your brain will rate them on the Physical attraction scale. This is not in your control but what your brain finds to be appealing. You can hide it, you can cover it up, but it's there in every single human being.

Next we'll go onto the Emotional attraction. Emotional attraction is a bit more complicated. This is because it has so many sub-factors within it. When people say "Look at the beauty on the inside, not the outside" they want you to be Emotionally attracted to someone. However, like Physical, it's just not there for every single person. This can range to having the same beliefs to having the same tastes to just getting along with someone. The range is just to large to go into without writing 50 chapters+ about all of them. But the overall result of this is someone that you can be around that you can feel as ease with. You can trust them, feel safe around them, talk to them. You can communicate with each other and not feel turned away often. To relate it a little more, you most likely have Emotional attraction with almost all of your friends if not every one of them. (Which in no ways says you should date all your friends, just that THAT is the type of attraction this is). Some people will read this and not see it on any sort of level they believe Emotional attraction is. But it's just the attraction that your pro (good) emotions are high when with them.

Now we'll move onto Sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is not how happy you are to talk to them or how good they look. Sexual attraction is more about the arousal you feel around the person. It involves arousal and even sexual interests in bed that can heighten arousal or pleasure. This is an attraction that people are not as open about because hey, you ho up to someone and tell them they make you sexually aroused. Chances are you're getting a restraining order and a fine for harassment. But like Physical attraction, Sexual attraction exists. It plays more of a role in whether you date/sleep with someone than anyone will be willing to admit out loud. If you're not sexually aroused by your lover, than chances are it's more of a friend to friend relationship which does not last forever for people who want to start a family and settle down.

That's not all that is to be said on these three factors, in fact, those paragraphs were only to help define what they are.

As mentioned in Emotional attraction, you don't have to date someone you're attracted to by just that factor. In fact you don't have to date someone you're attracted to by any or all of the factors. This is now pushing into my theory OF the three factors. If you are only Emotionally attracted to someone, chances are you are only friends with them. If you're only Physically attracted to someone, chances are you only look at them as "Eye candy" so to speak, because that is the only attraction there, the visible kind. If you are only Sexually attracted to someone, chances are you aren't friends, you don't look at them that much, you might have a one night stand and that's it.

What all three have in common is if a relationship is based off of just ONE of them, chances are, it's not going to last. However now lets make it two. If you're Emotionally and Physically attracted to someone, chances are, you might be friends with them and have fantasies about them, but you probably will never actually sleep with them by any sort of planning. If you're Emotionally and Sexually attracted to someone, chances are you are friends with them and it might get a bit frisky if you are close to them Emotionally, but without any Physical attraction, you just wont stick together with there being no visual fulfillment. Sexually and Physically should be almost a no brainer that is will never last.

Before I go on, while we see Physical and Sexual attraction as being DIFFERENT. That does not stop them usually always being together. Although there are cases of having one attraction without the other.

Now onto all three together, this is the "Whole Package" so to speak. You find them visually appealing, you can be aroused with them and you find yourselves on a tight Emotional bond. This kind of attraction of all three WILL last if it's by both (or more) parties involved. Why? Because the relationship is not on a string of one attraction and it is not missing something completely.

Obviously it's not black and white, we could use a scale of 0-10 of how attracted in each attraction you are to someone and having a 5 in all three is better than having a 10 in one or two but having a 0 or 1-2 in the others. Or all three 3's and 4's are again not as good as like 2 8's and 1 3.

All of this however is theory. When theory is put into practice, it's never as black and white, there are usually more sub-factors in there that blind the three main factors. But the next time someone takes it offensive that you find them Physically and/or Sexually attractive, just remember that everyone does this, whether they know it or not and without those two factors WITH Emotional attraction. Chances are it's a doomed relationship from the start.

Before ending this, we are done with the theory and all, but people should take this into serious consideration. No one wants to be an "object" but no one wants to be just a "friend". If you want a relationship, all three of these factors are needed. Yes, you must be friends (Emotional attraction), you must find each other visually appealing (Physical attraction) and you simply must be able to be aroused by your partner (Sexual attraction). All three together make the perfect mix for a long lasting healthy relationship. Do not let anyone tell you a relationship should be focused on Physical, Emotional or Sexual. All three are a MUST.

Equality

Let me just start this one off with saying that it does not exist and never will.

What we're talking about is basically ideal Communism (EQUALITY AMONG AL). Equal pay, equal education, equal everything.

However, ideal Communism will never exist because there will always be corruption. The same, equality will never exist because there will always be the people who take it to the extreme on either side of the blade.

This includes topics like Religion, LGBT, Sexism, Racism and any other ism's out there.

Let's start with Sexism. This one is always high on the charts. On one side, we have the reason why women's rights was first pushed toward. Guys that are complete assholes and think the male is the dominant of the genders. So much to the point they believe they can order women around and judge them as they see fit or that they feel entitled to something. But then we got the other side of the fence that believes it's "equality" to victimize themselves in every situation and use the because they're a women excuse for doing something wrong.

Before someone starts bitching about that statement, those are the far reaching edges of both sides of the blade, there's also people on the blade more towards the middle and ones directly on the tiny uprising in the middle.

In Religion and Science there will NEVER be equality. On one end you have those that believe in a book so much that anything scientifically proven they will make excuses for to keep strong to their beliefs. On the other end you'll have people who will deny some scientific evidence that give a small bit of credence to a religion of one form or another.

We could go on and on about rights and equality. It's a current battle that has the span of centuries backing different sides. We will never exist on the fence of everything.

In the end of it all, it all comes down to entitlement. Each side believing they are entitled to something and that they and they alone are right with no compromise or understanding. When you open your eyes, women, men, white, black, asian, native, gay, straight, bi, transgender, christian, atheist, Canadian, American, Russian, Chinese, everyone. EVERYONE. Feels like they are entitled to something and/or that only they are correct.

The truth of the matter is, is that equality only exists in the middle. Leaning to either side will unbalance the scales.

Vaccination

This little rant is coming up due to a page "I Fucking Love Science" pushing vaccination again and again. While I agree with almost all the stuff they post, it seems like this one topic is something it will not stop pushing. The page is popular and they know they're popular. They're using this popularity to peer pressure people into something of their own belief.

Do some research yourself, while almost all medical sites will recommend you get the flu vaccine each year (which for those that don't understand it is injecting the dead flu cells into your body that was grown in chicken eggs before being injected into you). No site will say that it's a certainty that the virus is not mutating to pass over this new immunity everyone is getting.

A virus is a living thing, it wants to survive. In order to survive it must continue to hop from one host to another to keep going. We want to stop this by giving everyone immunity with vaccination and giving people who can't get vaccinated herd immunity. That'd be great if we could stop it completely. However, as a living thing and as the fastest mutating microbe in the world, in order to survive it will mutate into something we have no vaccination or medicine for. In fact, it could go from a pretty harmless cough and cold that you take a week or two off work for to avoid spreading it into something much more deadly, as we've seen happen in bacterial infections.

We over medicated all the bacterial infections out there, but some people either did not take the medicine right or it did not fully kill the bacteria like intended, that bacteria survives and then mutates to adapt to that medicine. Now you have a new strain of bacteria that you have no cure or medication for and it probably mutated with a more severe side-effect as well that could kill you.

Now let's transfer that to a virus, something that lives a short life but mutates much much faster. Rushing everyone into the hospital to get vaccinated, meanwhile a few of them out of fear of letting it spread already have the virus get the vaccination and the virus quickly adapts by mutating.

Viruses also mutate to transfer across species so for this vaccine to even work to fully wipe it out a few steps need to be followed.
1.) Everyone without the virus needs to be vaccinated.
2.) Every animal without the virus needs to be vaccinated.

We are pushing for step one, that's not going to stop the virus even if we do it successfully. Because now that virus is hopping over to each animal species to survive, mutate then come back and bite us in the ass.

There is also no scientist team even working on proving this right or wrong. They simply do not know whether these vaccines are mutating the virus further or just stopping them. It'd be nice to have 100% confidence that it is only stopping them and not making them mutate faster. But there's no work being done to prove or deny this possibility. Only recommendations and hopes that we're doing the right thing.

So this flu season, do not feel peer pressured into getting a flu shot, while yes, if you do get one and manage to not become infected or spread it further, that is good. However we do not have factual proof that we are not creating a more deadly super virus in doing so. So if you believe you will not be infected for whatever reason and don't think the vaccines are working, do not feel guilted into getting one. Anyone trying to guilt trip you could be effectively on the ignorant side of helping create a super killer virus even if they do not mean to do harm.

Yes, not getting a vaccination could be the death of you, but getting a vaccination could also be the death of you as well. We live in a fear driven world, where everyone is so afraid of dying that we over medicate and cause ourselves to die anyway. Perhaps I'm wrong, perhaps you all should get the vaccination each year, but I do not see any credible scientific studies to prove these vaccinations are not doing more harm than good. It's left to your best judgement whether getting the vaccine this year and the year after and the year after that is good for you or bad.

The Internet Age

We're going deeper and deeper into The Internet Age (TIA) with each passing year. I personally wonder what will be after it sometimes. I hope it will be better than what it is now.

Right now, we're stuck so deep into the age that face to face communication is a rare thing. There are bloody twelve year old kids that sit beside each other and text instead of speak to one another. Entire relationships that basically only happen online/texting besides when it comes to sex (IF they even get to that).

TIA is becoming a plague on communication and is creating a detachment in people's sensitivity towards others. It's simple to send a text message to someone you're in a relationship with and say "it's over" or "we're done". You do not have to see how much it hurts them (or how little). If you want to ignore people you can easily just not read/reply to what someone wants to say to you or you can easily 'block' them.

Perhaps this is why we are seeing an increase in 'mental illnesses' or 'anti-socialism' in people. Since we do not communicate face to face as often, it's easy for someone to be hurt by words and no one ever noticing behind a screen how badly they are hurt. So they begin to turn away from communicating with people or they get into a state of depression from lack of socialization (which yes, as human beings this is actually a need to stay healthy), which we then begin to group in mental diseases or mental illnesses or anything we can to put them in a group that something is wrong with them.

With TIA growing every day, being able to lie, back stab, cheat, hurt, bully or threaten is getting easier and easier. You want to hurt or humiliate someone? You can easily post things whether slander or not publicly for everyone to see online. Without a second thought, it's there to stay. We also see suicide on an increase. It's not something that happened overnight, but it increased as TIA grew. Simply because someone online says something without a second thought to how hurt someone already is or how hurt it will make them.

Then we actually have the balls to congratulate this behaviour using terms like "trolls" in a good light. Being an asshole is never okay. Especially toward people you do not know. This behaviour tends to come from the younger generations, it is very rare to see a person older than thirty "trolling" people for "fun". This is most likely because kids are growing up in TIA now. Parents who let their kids get away with anything unknowingly let this behaviour grow and spread. Perhaps we need to begin reinforcing age restrictions on things like Xbox Live, Forums or anything else interactive with other people online. The minimum age is supposed to be thirteen, but we all know how easy it is to bypass that one.

Why would limiting a child's online access be healthy and beneficial to society? Because they will not learn any more immaturity than their natural self and friends around them in real life. Online is the breeding grounds for insensitivity. Then to allow a child who is not even a teenager yet learn from it instead of what their own actions have an affect on in real life just increases this limit of insensitivity towards other human beings.

Yes, TIA has it's good aspects, being able to communicate with people when they're far away or being able to research things more deeply to understand. But with all the negative aspects, it's a wonder why we're not limiting access to it.

There are many stories of 'fails' or 'cheaters' that we take for face value. Assuming captions or what someone writes to be true. This is the internet, it's easy to lie, so when viewing a story about something or someone, do not make the assumption that it is true unless you were there in person and witnessed it. Spreading things around with little thought to its factual information just creates more ignorance and insensitivity in the world.

In the end, TIA is here to stay for a long while, but what we do with it is our choice. Perhaps one day people will begin limiting the things put onto it and the type of people allowed to continue to use it.

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